At the beginning of relationships, it’s all fireworks and lightning — as soon as you touch other, your appetite for sex renewed. Over time, these intense feelings of sexual desire tend to pitter-patter away.
What’s left is a deep bond with lots of emotional intimacy and a sense of safety and attachment. Sometimes, it’s easy to take this as a sign that something’s off; you’ve fallen out of love, or perhaps you’re not meant to be.
As a clinical sexologist, I want you to know there doesn’t have to be anything wrong with your relationship just because you’d rather Netflix…
Great relationships don’t just happen — we need to work on keeping them fresh. If you’re on the hunt for tips for keeping a relationship alive, look no further. By using the 3-step process outlined in this article, you’ll be well on your way to more intimacy and excitement.
In order to create change and keep things interesting — you need to know what you want to make more exciting.
For example, do you want to feel more attracted to your partner? Do you want to have sex more often? …
On the other side of sex lies the possibility for many things: connection, intimacy and fun are a few of them. But sex also contains the possibility for things less positive than these, namely; disappointment, frustration and emptiness.
If your sexual experience with your partner is far from what you want it to be, it’s not strange if sex leaves you feeling emotional. Quite the contrary.
Sex often demands of us to be vulnerable and open with another person (or people).
We need to be committed to the experience and give of ourselves and our energy — and when this…
Sometimes, it seems as if all you do is fight. As a sex therapist, I often work with people on their relationships, beyond the sexual stuff. One question I get frequently is “how do you communicate in a relationship without fighting” — and the answer is what this article is all about.
One reason we end up having the same arguments over and over again, is because we’ve gotten into a habit of assuming the worst about our partner — instead of the best.
You start to see their behaviour or their lack of action as a sign of something…
Whether you find it easy to climax or experience trouble orgasming, knowing just what happens to your body when you orgasm is a good way of learning to understand your body and your sexuality. Because with more knowledge, comes more pleasure!
Below are six things that occur in your body when you have an orgasm.
Your pelvic floor muscles consist of several muscles that stretch from your pubic bone to your tailbone. These muscles are important as they help prevent things like incontinence and pelvic floor prolapse.
They’re also highly involved in orgasms.
When you climax, your pelvic floor muscles…
You first need to understand why depression affects sexual desire.
Often viewed as a biological need — sexual desire is actually much more complex than a basic urge. It’s more like an emotion that can be affected by lots of things besides our biology.
Psychological factors like depression and anxiety, relationship factors like conflict and communication styles, and even cultural factors, like how we think we’re meant to experience desire or sex — all can lead to low libido.
We cannot separate our sexuality from ourselves, which is why depression can have such a large impact on our sex drive.
What we used to think of as a drive (hence the phrase sex drive) is now seen as more of an emotion. An emotion which, just like any other, can be affected both positively and negatively.
Emotions are like compasses — they tell us what we need, communicate these needs to others, and motivate us to take action.
There are lots of feelings, but according to emotions expert Tomkins, when stripped down to their core, there are really only nine. These are:
We grow up in a world that tells us that if we’re with the right person — love, attraction and sex, are easy. But while Hollywood rom-coms and our social media feeds are filled with these images — relationship and sex therapists like myself, see what others don’t.
We see the couples who are struggling with connection. The couples who feel like something is missing because they’re not having sex. The couples who’ve stopped looking at each other lovingly.
There’s nothing wrong with a relationship that feel a little lacklustre — it just needs a boost. …
If you’re wondering “what does lack of communication do to a relationship” — you’ll find the answer to your question right here in this article — written by a sex and relationship therapist.
Relationships can be many things, but for a lot of people, they’re actually all about communication. That’s why you got together in the first place: because what happened when you connected sent you swooning.
So whether it be verbal, physical or spiritual — the connection between you and what you create in that connection — is where the magic happens. …
Rest assured you’re not alone and the reasons for your absent climax might not have to do with attraction at all.
Even if it is an important part of the puzzle — attraction is really only one piece of it. In order to climax during sex with your partner there are three other major parts that usually need to be in place
Sounds simple — and perhaps you think you can cross this one off your list already? But give it a minute.
Though similar and hard to disentangle, attraction and sexual desire aren’t actually one and the same thing.